A German etiquette group has divided opinion with its calls for a ban on greeting kisses in the workplace, which it labels “too private, too intimate, and too unprofessional”.

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Office etiquette: should kisses be banned?

A German etiquette group has divided opinion with its calls for a ban on greeting kisses in the workplace, which it labels “too private, too intimate, and too unprofessional”.

Office etiquette: should kisses be banned?
Ilker Yüksel

The recommendations come from the influential Essen-based Knigge-Gesellschaft, an etiquette association whose pronouncements are followed with interest by German speakers in several countries, including Switzerland.

But not everybody is enamoured with the group’s rules of workplace disengagement. In an opinion piece published by the Tages Anzeiger newspaper, Annett Altvater from online magazine Clack.ch takes issue with the calls for osculatory restraint.  

“If the greeting kiss in the workplace is to be banned, it seems like we have been afflicted with a prudish American ‘cover your ass’ campaign.”

In these recessionary times, the association is trying to lay down the law, arguing that tactful behaviour in the workplace has become fashionable again.

“In business the greeting ritual is the handshake,” according to the association, which recommends that an optimal distance of 60 centimetres be kept between business associates.

“Privately, greeting kisses are allowed, but they’re a no-no in the office,” said head of the etiquette association Hans-Michael Klein.

Altvater agreed that kisses and other forms of affectionate contact are not part of the Germanic cultural identity, a fact she said made any calls for a ban all the more laughable.

“This is different in South American countries where a business partner will be touched about 60 times in the space of an hour, but as a rule in Switzerland and Germany hands are kept neatly to oneself.” 

In the unlikely event of an unwanted kiss or embrace in a Swiss business setting, Altvater recommends using body language rather than bans. 

“An ice queen strategy should be adopted to avoid lip-cheek contact. The hand should be clearly offered. For guaranteed success, this treatment needs to be repeated a few times.”

Altvater also took a swipe at the catchphrase displayed on the association’s official sticker: “Peck, peck – no thanks!” (Bussi, Bussi – nein danke!). Should fellow office inhabitants persist in seeking out a post-pizza peck, the Clack writer said her magazine urged woman to simply speak their minds rather than littering the workplace with prudish slogans.

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What you need to know about calls to ban full-face veils in German classrooms

A fresh debate has been sparked over whether schools in Germany should allow pupils to wear the niqab, a facial veil worn by Muslims which leaves only the wearer's eyes visible.

What you need to know about calls to ban full-face veils in German classrooms
Archive photo shows two women wearing face veils in Hesse. Photo: DPA

What's happening?

There are calls to change state laws in Germany after a court ruled against an attempt by authorities in Hamburg to stop a 16-year-old schoolgirl from wearing a niqab during lessons.

Hamburg education officials had ordered the girl's mother to ensure that her daughter did not wear the veil at her vocational school, and reportedly imposed a €500 fine.

But an administrative court on Monday sided with the girl's mother.  

An appeal by the city against this decision was rejected by the Higher Administrative Court. The court said in a statement that there is no legal basis for the order against the mother.

According to the court, the student could claim the “unconditionally protected freedom of religion”. Interventions in this fundamental right would require a “sufficiently determined legal basis”. The Hamburg School Act does not currently provide for such a basis.

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Will there be a change in law?

There could be, at the state level. It's important to note that German education laws are made at the state rather than federal level, but there is a wider debate around the country about the role of full-face veils in the classroom.

Hamburg's education minister Ties Rabe, of the Social Democrats (SPD), said on Monday that he would seek to change education state laws in order to be able to implement the ban in the northern state.

He told broadcaster NDR: “At school, it is appropriate for teachers and students to have an open and free face, that is the only way school and teaching can function.

“That's why we will now swiftly amend the school law, so that this is also guaranteed in the future.”

Hamburg's state parliament is ruled by a coalition made up of the SPD and Greens.

On Monday, the Greens appeared to back the SPD's calls. The party’s Katharina Fegebank declared that the burqa and niqab were “symbols of oppression” for her. For a successful school education, she said, “good communication at eye level” was needed.

Fegebank called for changes in the school law.

Opposition parties the Christian Democrats (CDU), Free Democrats (FDP) and Alternative for Germany (AfD) have previously called for a ban on niqabs and burqas in classrooms. They slammed Hamburg's red-green coalition on not changing state laws earlier.

Meanwhile, the German Teachers' Association has called for a ban on face veils not only in schools. “I advocate a nationwide ban on the niqab in all educational institutions,” said association president Heinz-Peter Meidinger.

“This does not fit with the open-mindedness we want to cultivate in the classroom.”

READ ALSO: When Muslim women are allowed to wear headscarves in Germany and when not

What's happening in other states?

The ruling in Hamburg has prompted other states to consider changing laws.

Susanne Eisenmann the education minister in Baden-Württemberg, said Tuesday that the court decision makes it clear that a legal basis for a ban is needed for legal clarity.

“For this reason we want to adapt our school law quickly,” she told DPA.
“Freedom of religion also has its limits – and in our schools, in concrete terms, when teachers and pupils can literally no longer look each other in the face. We do not tolerate full veils in our schools.”

There's an ongoing situation in Hamburg's neighbouring northern state Schleswig-Holstein. The state parliament there failed to pass a ban on full-face veils in universities and colleges, following a Green party vote against it.

The Green party, however, is divided on the issue. Some members of the party back a ban on garments that completely cover a woman's face.

The debate about religious clothing has become especially heated in light of the record number of refugees, most from Muslim-majority countries, who arrived in Germany during the worldwide crisis three to four years ago.

The far-right AfD has seen its popularity soar since then, with calls for banning headscarves and minarets on mosques.

The topic of headscarves in school has also become heated across different German states in recent years.

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